- “No More Faking Fine” by Esther Fleece
- Christian Non-Fiction
- Read on my Kindle, thanks to NetGalley for the copy
- 4/5 stars
- Finished February 12, 2017
If you’ve ever been given empty clichés during challenging times, you know how painful it can feel to be misunderstood by well-meaning people. Far too often, it seems the response we get to our hurt and disappointment is to suck it up, or pray it away.
But Scripture reveals a God who meets us where we are, not where we pretend to be.
No More Faking Fine is your invitation to get gut-level honest with God through the life-giving language of lament. Lament, a practice woven throughout Scripture, is a prayer that God never ignores, never silences, and never wastes. As author Esther Fleece says, “Lament is the unexpected pathway to true intimacy with God, and with those around us.”
Esther learned this the hard way, by believing she could shut down painful emotions that haunted her from a broken past she tried to forget on her fast track to success. But in silencing her pain, she robbed herself of the opportunity to be healed. Maybe you’ve done the same.
No More Faking Fine is your permission to lament—to give voice to the hurt, frustration, and disappointment you’ve kept inside and silenced for too long. Drawing from careful biblical study and hard-won insight, Esther reveals how to use God’s own language to draw closer to Him as He leads us through any darkness into His marvelous light.
This book showed up exactly when I needed it most, which I find happens often with books. I didn’t know how much I needed this book until I started reading it. How often, when something happens to us, are we just expected to say “It’s God’s plan!” and move on with our lives? Or how many times is that spoken over us, without leaving room to lament?
Lamenting is actually present in the Bible. Mourning your loss, and really questioning God. You can get mad at God, you can yell and scream at Him. He can take it, and that’s one of the things that this book really helped me through. If you can’t stomach cliche worship songs, that’s okay. You can walk out during worship, you can roll your eyes during a sermon, because He shows up. He’s still there in those moments of despair. The moments when nothing makes sense and you’re just so angry. When I found out I wasn’t going on the World Race any longer I Facetimed a friend of mine sobbing and yelling. Even saying “I don’t even know how I’m supposed to believe in Him anymore. He promised me This!”
I didn’t feel guilty for being angry, but this book helped me process a lot. This book reminded me that it’s okay, and it’s normal, and how the church often suppresses this idea of lamenting. Sometimes we need to lament. And that’s okay. It’s okay to not be fine, and as someone who always says they’re doing well or doing fine, this book has really aided me. I really think this is a book every Christian should read, and put into action.
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